Lorraine Reed Whoberry, a wife, mom, a grandmother, and newly published author is the founder and executive director of the S.T.A.C.I.E Foundation. The S.T.A.C.I.E. Foundation was inspired by Lorraine, who survived a brutal attack on her daughters in 1999, which took the life of Stacie (for whom the foundation is named) and her younger daughter Kristie, who survived the attack.
Lorraine’s book: Heal My Wounds, Leave My Scars, published May 2018 tells in detail the journey Lorraine and Kristie walked to finding hope and healing amid the hopelessness. Her story is riveting, honest, sometimes raw and completely transparent as to the obstacles and barriers they overcame to survive such a heinous crime bestowed upon their family.Lorraine’s book: Heal My Wounds, Leave My Scars was published May 2018 and tells in detail the journey that Lorraine and Kristie walked to finding hope and healing. It took Lorraine seventeen years to write her book. Their journey is far from over and Lorraine will speak wherever she’s invited. Churches, conferences, prisons and other venues and events to share her testimony. To order your copy click here: https://staciefoundation.org/product/heal-my-wounds-leave-my-scars/
Heal My Wounds;Leave My Scars is recently nominated for the prestigious “Henri Award” at The 2018 Christian Literary Awards in the Grief and Terminal Illness category by Joy & Company. The Christian Literary Awards is a premier event honoring authors in the categories of: Fiction, Non-Fiction, Testimonial, Children’s Books, Illustrator, Youth/Young Adult, Christian Living, Inspirational, Motivational, Poetry, Grief and Terminal Illness, Sports & Fitness, Bible Study and Devotional. A confidential group of judges consisting of professionals and avid readers will determine award winners.The loss Lorraine suffered due to losing Stacie and the brutal attack on Kristie took her through a journey of grief that almost devoured her. Lorraine understands the hidden anguish of devastation crime victims suffer. The agony that the offender caused was severely heartbreaking, emotionally agonizing, demoralizing, discouraging, and sometimes humiliating.
Lorraine fought through adversity and overcame countless obstacles, and hurdles most of us cannot imagine. Through perseverance and her desire to heal from the stigmas of trauma, she shares her personal journey as an impact speaker. Lorraine finds hope and healing by reaching out to other victims of crime and trauma. She chose to overcome the aftermath of the offender’s decimation by focusing on the positive attributes and making positive differences in her community and across the Nation. As an impact speaker, she discusses topics that include accountability, consequences, hope and forgiveness from a victim’s perspective. She teaches on forgiveness at a level that few of us can even comprehend. After nine years of being dealt a life sentence, Lorraine found freedom from the bondage of unforgiveness, by learning to forgive herself and ultimately the offender.
For every choice there is a consequence, whether positive or negative. We have the power to choose. And we have the power to heal. When we give into defeat we give power to darkness. Forgiveness is a process. It’s also a choice. Unforgiveness is bondage. Forgiveness is Freedom. Together we can demolish this epidemic in our society when we make the choice to forgive.
The military holds a special place in Lorraine’s heart. She was honored with the flag that draped Stacie’s casket the day her family formally said goodbye to Stacie. She will never forget the glimpse she was given of what families endure when we bury our soldiers. Stacie’s a warrior for Christ today in heaven. Lorraine and Kristie’s journey has been difficult and amazing. Their hope is that Christ can use their story to help others struggling to find Hope amid hopelessness.
As a victim advocate, Lorraine, at the request of the Hamilton County Prosecutors Office, assisted Sam Debose family, a victim in the University of Cincinnati Campus Police shooting, as well as a court advocate to other families in crisis. Lorraine serves as committee member for Department of Ohio Youth Services, Interstate Compact for Juveniles (ICJ) State Council.
Lorraine and her family were instrumental in the changes in Virginia House Bill 913, revision of the Virginia Code £ 19.2-11.4 “Establishment of victim offender mediation program” and amended the language to allow face to face mediation with offender and victim(s) in Capital murder cases when both parties agree. Although this was implemented too late for Lorraine and her family to take part in, she prays it will benefit other families walking a similar journey.
Other successful amendments to Prince William County Law Enforcement and adopted by other Law Enforcement Agencies include: death notifications, now made in person by a team of Officers partnered with Chaplains; Victim(s)/Witnesses notified by Prosecuting Attorney’s office regarding all motions, hearings, trial dates, and/or offender transports; Victim(s)/Witness kept apprised of case and all court appearances by the defendant; Prosecuting Attorney’s office prepares the victim(s)/witness of testimony, agenda or changes prior to court proceedings/trials.
In 2010, shortly after Paul Powell was executed by the State of Virginia, Lorraine knew the Lord was calling her to share her testimony of forgiveness in the Ohio Prisons to offenders incarcerated. At first, she was non-compliant and repeatedly told the Lord no! She refused to be obedient. The Lord knew the blessings this would bring to Lorraine and Kristie as well as the S.T.A.C.I.E. Foundation, but more so to those incarcerated. After months of being obstinate, she finally relented when the Lord reminded her of a promise she made to him. “I will go wherever you send me, as long as I know You are always there.” She complied and is now invited to speak in prisons across the Nation, sharing her testimony and talking about her book. She couldn’t imagine her life any other way. Her hope is to have Heal My Wounds, Leave My Scars in every prison library across the United States. Thanks to a very special Lady’s Group from Hartwell, GA, every Georgia prison library will have Lorraine’s book.
Lorraine serves as a Victim Impact Speaker and Victim Offender Dialogue Facilitator for the Ohio Department of Corrections and speaks Nationwide sharing her journey.
“The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoner, and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free” Luke 4:18 NIV
Throughout the years, Lorraine and Kristie’s story has gained international recognition. Lorraine has been the featured Keynote Speaker in several venues across the country with National Organization Victims Assistance, International Association of Chiefs of Police, Christian Women Alive and multiple Christian Women’s conferences. Lorraine and Kristie have been featured on national and local television programs such as America’s Most Wanted, The Montel Williams Show, I Survived, Discovery Health, INFOCUS and most recently Security Brief with Paul Vollis.
Lorraine has been interviewed by several radio talk show hosts, including Frank Pastore of The Frank Pastore Show, Cherie O’Malley and Barbara Follis of Words to Live By through RBC Ministries, WLW 700 AM Radio of Cincinnati by Bill Cunningham and WYLL 1160 AM of Chicago by Dion Welton. Lorraine and Kristie have also been interviewed by several print publications such as CHAT Magazine, Christian Voice Magazine, That’s Life, and Today’s Christian Woman. Lorraine is a contributing author for Women 2 Women, The Naomi and Ruth Experience Bible Study, by DR Ministries.
If you’d like to learn more about Lorraine’s journey, schedule her to speak at your next event or order her book: Heal My Wounds, Leave My Scars.
God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you have shown Him as you have helped His people and continue to help them. Hebrews 6:10 (NIV)